Welcome To Dating In The Modern Era
For far too long, dating has happened on men’s terms—and apps were built that way too. There were apps for cisgender men and women in their 20’s, but nothing for queer women of color, plus-sized women, or those over 50+.
But not anymore. We’ve found 7 apps that are created for women, by women, with our own needs in mind. No creepers here, get ready to maybe meet the one.
(Thinking of quitting online dating altogether? Don’t worry: there is still hope for love IRL!)
Price | Free, premium plans available ($10/mo)
Perks | Women message first, 3 services (Date, BFF, Biz), premium/paid perks
Best For | Women in new cities
Bumble began in 2014 after Whitney Wolfe Herd left her work at Tinder (their now-adversary!), and realized that she wanted to challenge the antiquated rules of dating. Today, Bumble serves 35 million users—with women making the first move. On Bumble, only women can message first with their matches, and if there’s no response, the message disappears within 24 hours. The app has done so well that they’ve now introduced Bumble BFF and Bumble Biz for growing friendships and professional networks. Especially useful for those moving to a new city or country, Bumble empowers all of us to not just play the field—but to also level it.
Price | Free to see, pay to message ($29/mo)
Perks | Many filters to sort through profiles with
Best For | Those with a conscious lifestyle
Looking for a partner who wants the same healthy, happy life you do? MeetMindful. (See what we did there?) MeetMindful is an app that prioritizes common interests like spirituality, yoga, travel, and healthy eating with authentic profiles and none of the “swipe” judgements. Once you sign up, you’ll be directed to fill out a profile and then you can begin to see matches immediately in your geographic area. They even offer the first 2 days with their premium subscription so you can see all that MeetMindful has to offer, including advanced filtering and the ability to send messages. If you’re willing to spend a few bucks, then you might find the conscious living partner of your dreams.
3. Coffee Meets Bagel
Price | Free to use, premium option available ($35/mo)
Perks | Curated matches each day
Best For | More authentic connections
If you’re sick and tired (and frankly bored) of being judged by just your face and a few photos, you’ll love Coffee Meets Bagel. CMB puts quality over quantity, with a limited number of matches each day so that you don’t have to swipe left or right mindlessly anymore. Everyday at 12PM, you’ll receive new matches from an algorithm designed just for you, so they’re curated to your interests and geographic information. Then, you’ll have just a couple of days to decide if you’d like to move forward. But its emphasis on quality is the reason the app is free of creeps or lurkers; only those seeking more serious relationships or authentic connections use it.
Price | Free to see, $39.99/mo to message
Perks | Multitude of gender/sexual identities, specific niche
Best For | Womxn and queer people
As humans, we don’t always identify as straight or gay and male or female. HER, a dating platform for queer womxn, wants to celebrate that: whether you’re lesbian, femme, trans, fluid, or queen, HER is here for you. Queer women were left out of online dating apps like Tinder and Grindr, and queer woman Robyn Exton was not having it—so she created HER. Nowadays, the app has more than 3 million users around the world with many users finding it to be a safe space: users can report profiles made by straight men or straight couples, and the app comes with all sorts of inclusive sexual and gender identities. It’s time we had dating resources that are as diverse as we are.
Price | Free to see, $4.99 to start
Perks | Women rate men, specific niche
Best For | Plus-sized men & women
WooPlus is a relatively new dating app made for plus-sized men and women, without the fat-shaming. After seeing a viral Tinder experiment featuring girls bigger than their photos, the WooPlus founders wanted to create an app that would be a safe space for curvier users. Nowadays, millions use the app, ranging from those who identify as chubby to those who see themselves as big beautiful women or big handsome men. Plus, those with fetishes are strictly banned, because all of us deserve a safe and comfortable space to meet potentially romantic partners. Rather than be negatively judged for our bodies, WooPlus wants to create a space where we can appreciate every body.
Price | Free to see, pay to message ($57.95/mo)
Perks | Personality test, easy to navigate
Best For | Over 55+ community
If you’re over 55+, SilverSingles might be exactly what you’re looking for. This mature online dating community is made specifically for those ready to enjoy the prime of life. Once you sign up, you’ll be prompted to take a personality test which will be used to find matches all over your area. No one catches your eye that day? Not to worry, they’ll send you new matches every day. With 1, 3, and 6 month plans, SilverSingles lets you send flirty basic communication for free and then paid opportunities to send messages. With this app in your corner, it’s never too late to find that special someone.
Price | Free, can purchase “coins” for additional likes
Perks | Q&A match system, free to use
Best For | Those looking for beauty and brains
If you were a fan of the New York Times’ 36 Questions, you’ll be obsessed with Sapio. This app isn’t just about pretty faces—it’s about mixing beauty and intellect. First, users answer thoughtful and deep questions like what they take the most pride in or how they can be the best versions of themselves. Then, with their Q&A match system, they’ll be matched with those who align with their lived experiences and genuine passions. Plus, it’s free to use with up to 100 likes a day, with the option to purchase coins for additional likes. We’re excited about Sapio because online dating could (and should) be way more than just hookups and hangouts.