Books that help us feel at home in our bodies.

How we connect with our bodies changes during different stages of life: whether we are back on the dating scene after a long-term relationship has ended, exploring new sides of our sexuality after having a baby, or facing some internalized shame that is suddenly causing intimacy road blocks, the evolution of our relationships with our bodies and sexual desires is a lifelong journey.

These books thread into a feminist view of radical self-love and deeply honor feminine energy and sexuality. Written by authors we admire—including psychologists, OBGYNs, and doulas—these books are reframing the narrative and helping us feel at home in our bodies.

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1. Come As You Are 

Author | Emily Nagoski

Dr. Emily Nagoski is like your nerdy, sciency best friend. Pairing scientific studies with humor, she takes readers on a curious exploration and explains how psychology impacts sexual desires. Backed by modern science, Nagoski opens the door to our unique sexuality, and she removes judgment, helping us understand our anatomy, as well as the ways we find arousal. 

Review | “Emily Nagoski has written one of the most important books about sex any woman (or anybody else) could ever pick up, full of insights that are both fascinating and deeply useful.” — Carol Queen, Ph.D., Founding Director, Center for Sex & Culture

Price | $18.99

2. The Body is Not an Apology

Author | Sonya Renee Taylor

Sonya Renee Taylor is an activist and poet. In “The Body is Not an Apology,” she guides readers through new ways of awakening love for the body and dismantles shame created by society. Taylor’s book invites us to find peace in these beautiful bodies we were born with. 

Review | “I thought I had a very positive relationship with my body until I read this, and the new perspectives this book gave me helped me think differently. The Body is Not an Apology is definitely a book I’ll be referencing often and one whose message will stick with me for a long time.” — Julie Anna from Sincerely Juliana

Price | $18.95

3. Becoming Cliterate

Author | Laurie Mintz 

The name of this book says it all. Using science-backed research, Dr. Laurie Mintz invites us to explore how we receive pleasure. She argues that women’s anatomy requires a different approach for reaching orgasm, and she goes through the history, anatomy, and techniques for clitoral arousal, as opposed to intercourse. As a bonus, the final chapter is dedicated to men. 

Review | “This read doesn’t just zero in on the politics of pleasure inequality, it also offers up solutions that help the reader become more hands on (literally) with their own sexuality.” — Bust Magazine

Price | $12.99

4. Queer Sex

Author | Juno Roche

Juno Roche’s book offers an educational and transparent look into gender—especially as it shows up in sexuality. Written through the lens of the trans and queer community, it creates space for an essential conversation while also encouraging a broader look at the vast landscape that is intimacy. Roche helps readers explore intimacy and develop a deeper understanding of what sex means for all bodies. 

Review | “Queer Sex is an audacious and inspiring challenge to a system that shames trans bodies and desires. Roche’s words are a gift to anyone looking to open their minds and fall in love with the possibilities of love.” — CN Lester, musician and author of “Trans Like Me”

Price | $19.95

5. Doing It!: Let’s Talk About Sex

Author | Hannah Witton 

Targeted at a younger audience, “Doing It!” is for anyone beginning to learn about sex and what it means to them (ages 14+). This book is a wonderful starting point to help empower teens in their relationships and self-confidence. Hannah Witton also hosts a YouTube channel where she has honest and funny conversations about sex, adolescence, and being a woman.

Review“The writing is frank and informative and suited for young adults of the 21st century. This book is not preachy, instead reading as if it was written by an extremely approachable sex ed teacher who is addressing questions from the anonymous “Question Box.”…an excellent resource for health curricula and is a must-have for libraries serving young adults.” — School Library Connection

Price | $10.99

6. Love Your Lady Landscape

Author | Lisa Lister

This book acts as a how-to manual for various areas of a woman’s life. Lisa Lister helps the reader reconnect with feminine wisdom through exercises that realign desires. She teaches earth-based spirituality, movement, dance, and breath-work, offering tools for reconnecting to the feminine. Lister also explores menstrual cycles and teaches readers how to be synced to the rhythms in nature. 

Review | “Lisa Lister doesn’t mess around. She’s here to break boundaries and barriers that have been created by what society defines ‘normal’ and in turn, remind us what’s real.” — Kyle Gray, Bestselling Author of “Angel Prayers”

Price | $20.99

7. Pleasure Activism

Author | adrienne maree brown

A powerful collection of essays, this book covers a wide range of critical topics, including sex work, orgasms, and sexuality. Rooted in honest essays from women’s rights activist and black feminist thinker, adrienne maree brown, “Pleasure Activism” pulls from black feminist traditions while weaving in conversations and insights from the likes of Cara Page and Audre Lorde. Read this one for new narratives surrounding important subject matters, as well as for critical insights about how humans can experience pleasure in everything. 

Review | “[adrienne maree brown] continues to stake her claim as one of our most critical thinkers and strategists by intentionally combining the power of story-telling with practical applications to help readers conjure their own definition of pleasure and how it is inextricably linked to every part of our existence.” — Monica Simpson, SisterSong Women of Color Reproductive Justice Collective

Price | $20

8. The Vagina Bible

Author | Jennifer Gunter

Dr. Jennifer Gunter is a gynecologist, OB/GYN, and passionate advocate for women’s health. Her newly released book (Aug 2019) is a tell-all of sorts and answers every question you’ve ever had about vaginas. Using her knowledge and experience, she writes with clarity about the sometimes confusing and strange things going on with the female body. Don’t miss the chapter on clitoris anatomy, or the one debunking the “g-spot” myth. 

Review | “Dr. Jen Gunter is a fountain of critically important information and shes funny as hell. Buy this book if you have a vagina or if you spend any time at all in reasonably close proximity to one.” — Ayelet Waldman, New York Times Bestselling Author of “A Really Good Day”

Price | $18.95

9. The Pleasure Gap

Author | Katherine Rowland

Using the insight she’s gained from hundreds of interviews with women and health care professionals, Katherine Rowland explores “our culture’s relationship with women’s sexual expression” in her newly released book (February 2020). Rowland argues that low libido and sexual desire are much more complex than society has painted them to be, and she aims to discuss this honestly while exploring how we can find enlightenment and freedom in sexual expression. 

Review | “Rowland skillfully synthesizes many different ideas and approaches, and encourages women to embrace a broader understanding of their own sexual desire as an ongoing process of self-discovery and self-assertion.” ― Publishers Weekly

Price | $28

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